The Good, The Bad And The Ugly Of Dating A Man With Kids

They have been separated for 2 years ,according to him they split when their child was 4 months. He says the reason they aren’t divorced is because he is not a US citizen and is married under a condition to keep him in the US. The condition expires in March per the guy. He claim he cannot have a civil conversation with the mom and tell her he is moving on because he is afraid she will get upset and alter his relationship with their daughter. We still love each other..but I think we have been through so much..more than just her, that we are slowly separating in every way…so baby momma drama is ALOT to deal with.

I was reading your post and yes, it is nice all those steps you mentioned. But how that could help when dealing with a toxic evil baby mama. History is that boyf and baby mama had baby by accident and he had already broken up with her when he found out. So I was confused that he has allowed this not true perspective to flourish. Anastasia This article was a tad helpful for me.

Be understanding

I’ve been having trouble with my boyfriend which I’ve been dating for about 6 months. I got along great with them and they did with me. Their mom started to be more involved with her kids since she’s had another kid on her own with her new partner. Pandemic hit and she quarantine with them. This is the longest time the kids have had with their mom since she left them 5 years ago.

Baby Mama Drama

But it isn’t impossible for him to come across information about her even after they break up. If she used her real name when she was pregnant, for example, then there are likely to be records of the birth of your child. His mother-in-law might have some insight into what happened to her son’s wife, so he might check on her too. I had to block him and her on everything (even LinkedIn!).

If he’s divorced, you’re going to have to get along with his ex, for the kids’ sake if nothing else, regardless of how difficult or dramatic they are. And if his partner passed away, it can often be even harder competing with a memory than a real live person. The he needs to figure it out who else will stay with him.

If it’s not a school night with homework, I’m on the road out of town for a game. At the end of the day, I get about one hour to myself after the kids go to bed. However, I am able to make time here and there to communicate with the person I’m seeing. If you’re okay with the kids ALWAYS coming first in the other person’s life, then you’ll be alright with a single parent.

He has no control over her either and that will just create issues in your relationship. Me and my man have been friends for a few years before we decided to get together. He has always felt some type of way about me more so out of curiosity. However the relations were always friend based and nothing inappropriate.

Should I let go of my anger towards my boyfriend’s babymomma? I clearly told my boyfriend she was not to step foot in my house especially since I’m not allowed to in hers. Well he let her come in anyway while I was at work a couple weeks ago and I of course was not having it.

Maybe I was wrong for continuing to talk to him after he told me after 2 months of casual talk that he had a kid on the way. Maybe it was our karma for doing that to her. I however had no idea and would have stopped talking to him immediately in the beginning because we were talking as if it could blossom into something but there was nothing inappropriate about it.

Even the women who said they don’t mind dating a guy with a baby mama, they had one condition; there should be no baby mama dramas. This was the main reason as to why women said they would never ever think of dating someone with a baby mama. I think it is best for single women without kids to date single men without kids; However life does not always work out this way. If you have a man with kids that is open and still validates you in the relationship then everything will be fine. The man should introduce you to the kids as well as the ex /mom of his kids especially if you will be around the kids often.

Arica Thank you this let me know I done everything right and the baby mama will not stop. She has a husband and and was married to him 9 yrs before me n my husband also have a child with her husband and yet and still she has to have drama with me. I through my hands up because before reading this I don’t everything in this order and it still does not work. Ontwosides Why does the baby mama need to be respected by the other woman, but the other woman doesn’t need to be respected by the baby mama? So she’s just supposed to respect a woman who won’t respect her? So as he told me he had a baby on the way, i felt some type of way inside, almost like I was betrayed because I mean why keep something that like from a friend right?

Coming into a family dynamic from the outside gives you the opportunity to be a friend to his kids. If an everyday encounter is what you seek, then keep it moving, sister. This guy will be in constant contact when his kids are not around, but once they arrive for their dad time, he will go ghost. The man with kids doesn’t get a lot of one-on-one adult time, especially if he is the primary parent.

Sometimes we would all hang out as a family, with the kids, and sometimes it would just be the four of us. Her and I have even got to a point where we get our nails done together and have girls nights. A few weeks ago, they came over with the kids. I knew almost right away that something was different, from her. She was wearing his coat-in any other circumstance I wouldn’t care but it was something about that night that bothered me.

See how he treated her is more than likely an indication of how he will treat you. A Stevie J baby the extreme of the spectrum and I blame both women for aiding in him mamas his behavior is appropriate. Mi Mi should’ve pumped breaks loooong ago.